Convincing Dad to Get Board and Care Help for Mom

David Wood talks about how to have a care conversation with your dad about your mom needing to go into a Board and Care Facility.

When convincing your dad that it’s time for your mom to move into a board and care facility to manage her dementia, it’s essential to approach the conversation with empathy, understanding, and open communication.

Here are some steps you can take to help convince your dad:

1. Choose the right time and place: Find a suitable time when your dad will likely be calm and receptive to discussions. Pick a private and comfortable setting where you can have an uninterrupted conversation.

2. Gather information: Collect information about board and care facilities specializing in dementia care. Be prepared with facts, details, and testimonials from other families who have had positive experiences with similar facilities.

3. Focus on your mom’s well-being: Emphasize that moving your mom into a board and care facility is based on her well-being and ensuring that she receives the specialized care she needs. Explain how the facility can provide a safer and more supportive environment with trained professionals who understand dementia care.

4. Share the challenges and limitations: Discuss your dad’s challenges and constraints in providing home care. Stress that the facility can alleviate some of these burdens and allow him to spend quality time with your mom instead of worrying about her well-being.

5. Highlight the benefits: Explain the benefits a board and care facility can offer. These may include 24/7 professional care, access to specialized programs and therapies, socialization opportunities, and a safe and secure environment designed to meet the specific needs of individuals with dementia.

6. Involve professionals – Like me :) Involve healthcare professionals, such as doctors, social workers, or geriatric care managers, who can provide expert opinions. Their input can carry weight and help your dad understand the importance of specialized care for your mom’s dementia.

7. Address emotional concerns: Understand that your dad may have emotional attachments and fears about separating from your mom or the idea of her being in a facility. Validate his emotions and address his concerns.

8. Seek support from others: Encourage your dad to seek permission from other family members, close friends, or support groups who have faced similar situations. Hearing from others who have been through similar experiences can provide him with reassurance and validation.

9. Be patient and understanding: Recognize that this may be a difficult decision for your dad. Be patient, listen to his concerns, and address them thoughtfully. Avoid pressuring or rushing him into a decision. Allow him time to process the information and come to his conclusions.

10. Offer reassurance and ongoing involvement: Reassure your dad that you will continue to be actively involved in your mom’s care, even after she moves into a board and care facility.

Remember, each individual and family situation is unique, and it may take time for your dad to accept the decision. Approach the conversation with compassion, respect, and a genuine desire to find the best solution for your mom’s well-being.

Good Luck,

David Wood