I don’t want to be a caregiver!

I don’t want to be a caregiver, I don’t know how to be a caregiver, I wouldn’t say I like the duties of a caregiver, and I don’t have the time to be a caregiver. I became a caregiver in the ’90s! I started helping my grandparents around the house when I would visit them, and I seemed to spend more time helping them each time I was there. Helping wasn’t a big deal to me, but it gave me perspective on what happens to many family caregivers. I hear stories like this all of the time.

I have met women who have given up jobs, promotions, their husbands, children, and especially time for themselves. Many family caregivers sacrifice school, work, and finances to help their loved ones. Most people are so focused on the money they are saving their loved ones they never add up what they are giving up to provide free labor to their families. Proving care becomes lopsided at some point, and the caregiver can resent this burden.

I can help you find care options that allow you to have respite. Everyone needs a break, even you.


Selling a Home for Mom and Dad  

I help you a lot about what happens before someone is placed into Assisted Living or a care home, but I never speak about what comes next. The first thing on most people’s minds is what they need to do to sell a home. Selling a home is a big project, and chances are you need some help.

Some questions to ask:

  • Are you going to sell the home?
  • Will rent the home?
  • Need to use the home?
  • Home to have an estate sale?
  • Do you need to donate specific items?

I work with local real estate professionals that have expertise in selling a home for an elderly family member. Not all agents do an excellent job at this. Especially if you are trying to do all of this remotely, remember that emotions also play a huge role. They need someone who can relate to them. Let me know if this is the stage you are in and you need some guidance. I am happy to help.

Give me a call at (805)748-2614

Seling a home that you have lived in for many years is stressful on your body and mind. Not all seniors are physically able to pack things up, move items around and lug boxes down the steep stairs. As difficult as that sounds, it pales in comparison to the mental and emotional stress a senior have when transitioning to a new home. Most times, seniors are downsizing to a much smaller footprint, which typically means they can only bring a small number of things with them. Working with people who understand the emotional side of moving is very important to your parent’s well-being.

We have created a local network of real estate professionals who are the county’s top performers. Some realtors on the list have the special designation “Certified Senior Housing Professional,” They have received additional training and knowledge about late-in-life transitions.

My network includes

  1. Local/Neighborhood Realtors
  2. Guidance with additional services like moving, cleaning, and repairs
  3. People who have experience helping seniors
  4. What to do with the “stuff”!!!
  5. Knowledge of Senior Friendly Living Choices

Whether you are looking to stay in your home for as long as possible, looking to rent your home and live somewhere else or sell your house all together, your home’s assets are typically the way people afford to care for an extended amount of time.

Here are a few creative ways people use their real estate as a financial tool.

  • Sell their Home
  • Rent their home
  • Reverse Mortgage
  • Bridge Loan
  • Home Equity
  • Long term Care Insurance

When choosing an independent caregiver, you are ensured that you will have someone screened and experienced. Since you know your loved one better than anyone, you must make sure the caregiver and the client are a personality match. Selecting an assisted living community or care home personality match of the other residents and the staff is critical to a successful long-term relationship.